3 Limiting Beliefs that cause suffering

Belief 1: Approval

This belief suggests that our worth is dependent on the approval of others. Individuals holding this belief often find themselves seeking acceptance and belonging while fearing judgment and rejection.

Signs of this belief include:

  • Placing unrealistic expectations on themselves.
  • Being overly concerned about others’ opinions.
  • Linking self-worth to achievements and popularity.
  • Constantly worrying about being judged.
  • Struggling with low confidence due to the fear of disapproval.

It’s important to note that characteristics like risk avoidance, procrastination, and shyness aren’t necessarily signs of laziness. They might show up from the need for approval. Workaholism can also result from this belief as individuals strive for validation.

Replacement: “I inherently have value as my authentic self. I seek love and acceptance from those who appreciate me for who I am.”

Belief 2: Judgement

This belief involves our expectations of “rightness” onto others as a measure of their worth. People with this belief may show superiority and a desire to avoid disappointment or unfairness.

Signs of this belief include:

  • Holding unrealistic expectations of others’ behavior.
  • Assuming personal authority over determining right and wrong.
  • Believing others must meet one’s needs.
  • Reacting with anger and impatience when others fall short of expectations.
  • Negative behaviors associated with this belief are aggression, intolerance, and bullying to enforce personal standards.

Replacement (for those who want to change their personality): “Every individual (including me) is imperfect, holds inherent value, and brings a unique perspective to the world.”

Advice to those who must interact with this kind of people: Stop taking it. Do everything you can to remove yourself from such an environment. You don’t have to put up with this at your job or in your personal life. You are a grown-up and deserve to be treated fairly and with respect. Learn how to set boundaries quickly and choose not to take it anymore.

Belief 3: Comfort

This belief includes expecting a life free of discomfort, challenges, or inconvenience. Individuals holding this belief often struggle with challenges and uncertainty, feeling distressed when circumstances aren’t ideal.

Common signs of this belief include:

  • Unrealistic expectations of a perfect life.
  • Treating challenges as unacceptable.
  • Low tolerance for frustration.
  • Engaging in escapist behaviors like overeating and excessive screen time.

Replacement: “Life is naturally filled with imperfections and challenges. I have the ability to find solutions and create happiness regardless of external circumstances.”

Conclusion

Understanding these false core beliefs can help you gain insight into your own thought patterns and behaviors. You may even recognize these beliefs in those around you. Remember, each of us holds these beliefs to some degree. My toolkit is equipped with various exercises, methods, and tools tailored to overcoming these beliefs. Feel free to share your struggles, and I’ll be here to assist you on your journey.

Maya